A doctor’s tumor rupture upends all she thought she knew

A doctor’s tumor rupture upends all she thought she knew
Medscape Nurses; by Rana Awdish as told to Sarah Yahr Tucker; 3/17/25
At some point, every doctor becomes a patient. For many physicians, experiencing serious illness and treatment is humbling, eye-opening, and, in the end, transformative. Dr. Patient is a Medscape series telling these stories... I was 7 months pregnant and it was my last day of fellowship. I went to dinner with my best friend to celebrate, and at the table I had excruciating abdominal pain that led me to present to my hospital. I didn’t know yet, but I had a noncancerous tumor in my liver that ruptured... There’s a lot of good evidence that when physicians communicate with empathy, a patient is less likely to come back to the ER for the same complaint... It’s as effective as any drug we have. I learned this from one of the surgeons who operated on me... He looked at me and said, “I want you to tell me what you’re most afraid of.” I said, “I’m afraid of having an ostomy bag when I leave the operating room.” And he said, “I can’t tell you how much I don’t want that to happen to you. I’m going to do everything I can to make sure that doesn’t happen.” With that one question and answer, I understood that our work for our patients is to hold their fear. I didn’t know that my fear couldn’t be bludgeoned to death with data. I thought if I had the right data, I would feel better. But nothing was ever going to make that better except him acknowledging my fear and holding it for me.
Publisher's note: I recently experienced how healthcare, including hospice, is very different when we are the patient - or in my case, the son. So much to be thankful for; so much to learn. Also see the author's article Never-Words: What not to say to patients with serious illness.