Literature Review

Dad diary: A smashed snake and our first real talk about death Indy Parenting; by Tyler Hayden; 3/28/25 The other day, just after the rain, my three-year-old and I were making our regular walk up the street to get the mail when he suddenly stopped and looked at the ground. There on the asphalt was a young gopher snake, crushed and bloody, its insides on the outside. “What’s that?” he asked. Here we go, I thought. Our first real conversation about death. I’d always imagined ― or hoped ― his first encounter with the other side of life would be a belly-up goldfish or a bird lying still in grass. Or even our 16-year-old cat. Something like that. But here it was, in an especially gory and disorienting form, staring us in the face. ... NPR recently interviewed a hospice social worker named Rosemarie Truglio, who specializes in talking with children about the death. She compared the gradual process of helping them understand it to how a kid eats an apple, ... [Continue reading ...] 

Honoring a young girl’s love of nature on her final dayMayo Clinic News Network; by Mayo Clinic Staff; 3/27/25 On a Saturday evening in September of 2024, Mae Helgeson arrived at Mayo Clinic in Rochester, her small body reeling from the trauma of a life-threatening accident. Although she was intubated and sedated, it didn't take long for the care team to learn what made this little girl special. ... "I often ask parents to tell me about their child. Is there anything you think is important or that I should know about your family?" says Paige Dighton, one of the Child Life specialists who partnered with Mae's family. "This allows them to share the special things — those unique qualities that make them a family. You learn more than just what's in their chart." ... It was only a couple of days later that Mae's family was faced with the devastating decision they'd hoped to avoid. ... The question shifted from "Can we save her?" to "How do we say goodbye?" Following their lead, the team began focusing on end-of-life care. "Dr. Schiltz gave us the space to think and process our emotions — it didn't feel rushed," says Matt. 

‘Show up and share’: How one UCLA ICU helps patients and staff live with dying Los Angeles Times; by Corinne Purtill; 3/20/25 

'They mourn just like you and me': Local nonprofit cares for animals of terminally ill owners The Gazette, Colorado Springs, CO; by Kelly Hayes; 3/22/25 The car ride back to the home of Randy and Linda Gearhart was near silent that February day. The husband and wife from Colorado Springs had just picked up 12-year-old Kimi, a tan, medium-sized dog, and 11-year-old Sage, a slightly larger kelpie mix. ... Sitting in the trunk of the car was all the pups had known: several cushions, their bowls, plenty of toys and a heap of blankets. But there was something — or rather, someone — missing. Their owner, who died recently. “I didn’t wash these until last week,” Linda said, pointing to their cushions. “I think having the smells, having their same beds, that familiarity, was good for them.” For nearly three decades, Safe Place for Pets has served as a new home for animals of terminally ill owners in Colorado Springs. With the help of about 50 volunteers, two part-time employees and a handful of fosters such as the Gearharts, the nonprofit shoulders a heavy responsibility: caring for beloved pets after their person dies. [Continue reading this heart-warming story ...]

Grief support groups available for Spanish speakers The Times-Standard, Eureka, CA; by The Times-Standard; 3/23/25 Hospice of Humboldt and Healing Roots Curando Raíces PC have announced a new partnership to offer free grief support groups in Spanish for the community. These groups will provide a safe and welcoming space for Spanish-speaking individuals to process loss, connect with others and receive compassionate support. ... Like Hospice of Humboldt’s Grief Support Groups in English, these groups are open to anyone in the community and are not limited to Hospice of Humboldt patients and families. “We are honored to collaborate with Healing Roots Curando Raíces PC to expand access to grief support for our Spanish-speaking community,” said Dianne Keating, CEO of Hospice of Humboldt. “Grief can feel isolating, and having support available in one’s preferred language makes a meaningful difference in the healing process.” 

Etched in time: Hope Hospice making extra effort to recognize, appreciate New Braunfels-area veterans New Braunfels TheHerald-Zeitung, New Braunfels, TX; by Erica Wilson; 3/20/25 ... [Photo] The Veterans Plaza on Hope Hospice's New Braunfels campus is pictured on Wednesday, March 19, 2025.  ... Of Hope Hospice’s patients in the New Braunfels area, about one-fifth are typically veterans. ...  [Descriptions of their "We Honor Veterans" program.] ... [In] a show of support for community veterans, Hope Hospice’s main campus in New Braunfels has a veterans plaza honoring both living and deceased veterans. Bricks engraved with veterans' names surround a flagpole on the campus.  All veterans are eligible to have their names displayed in the plaza, whether or not Hope Hospice has served their families. Bricks can be purchased for $50, and funds go toward supporting Hope Hospice’s efforts to support veterans at the end of their lives.

How our partnership with LovEvolve fosters the message of compassionate care Carolina Caring, Newton, NC; 3/20/25 ... Founded and designed by professional artist Sunny Goode, LovEvolve is a mission-driven organization producing scarves, blankets, and swaddles which hold creative attention to color theory and the message of love. ... LovEvolve has distributed their products across thirteen hospitals nationwide, allowing over 61,000 newborns to be wrapped in love. ... Cardinal Kids [Carolina Caring's pediatric palliative medicine and hospice program] began distributing LovEvolve blankets and swaddles to our hospice patients in December 2024. Though these items are a recent addition to our story, families have already shared that these gifts bring lasting meaning to their hospice experience. These blankets are memory makers, reminding families of the impact that their child has had on this world. Sometimes, parents use the blankets whenever they spend the night with their children at the hospice house. The blankets have also been regifted to siblings as a tangible reminder of their brother or sister. The visual cue of love has been a source of peace for many of our Pediatric nurses, as well.

Partners In Care hosts A Year to Live book discussion group starting April 5 Cascasde Business News; by CBN; 3/11/25 The Bereavement Department in conjunction with leadership at Partners In Care is hosting a community group to explore messaging in Stephen Levine’s book A Year to Live through a series of monthly sessions in 2025 and early 2026. In A Year to Live, Stephen Levine, author of the perennial bestseller Who Dies? teaches us how to live each moment, each hour, and each day mindfully—as if it were all that was left. On his deathbed, Socrates exhorted his followers to practice dying as the highest form of wisdom. Levine decided to live this way himself for an entire year, and now he shares with us how such immediacy radically changes our view of the world and forces us to examine our priorities. 

My Stories program preserves cherished memories of patients in hospice The Alpena News, Alpena, MI; by Reagan Voetberg; 3/8/25 The Hospice of Michigan in Alpena preserves the stories of patients, not in a book or photo album, but on a flashdrive. It’s called the My Stories program. Patients in hospice are given the opportunity to video record their stories and memories for their loved ones to hear once they’ve passed. Patients do not have to pay a dime to record their life stories. Alpena’s Hospice of Michigan Volunteer Program Coordinator Kristie Lukes talked about how meaningful the My Stories project is to patients and their families. Lukes coordinates volunteers to help patients with their recordings. Lukes explained further what My Stories is. “It’s a recording of the patient’s life and the stories that they want to share with family and patients,” she said. “So it becomes kind of a legacy project.” 

Parting Stone celebrates serving 10,000 families with solidified remains service Business Insider, Santa Fe, NM; Press Release; 3/5/25Parting Stone, an innovative death care company transforming the way families memorialize loved ones, is proud to announce that it has served 10,000 families with its solidified remains service. … s more families choose cremation for a loved one or pet, they seek meaningful ways to navigate grief, Parting Stone has emerged as a trailblazer in reshaping the narrative around death and memorialization. By offering a new form of remains that resembles a collection of 40–80 smooth stones, the company is helping people find comfort and connection in the grieving process. Solidified remains are a complete alternative to conventional “ashes.” … The National Funeral Directors Association predicts that by 2030, nearly 80% of Americans will choose cremation over traditional burial. Editor’s note: Click on the title’s link to see a photo.

My mother and brother have terminal cancer. I'm worried I won't feel anything when they die. Business Insider; essay by Kimanzi Constable; 3/1/25 ... My brother was diagnosed with Cutaneous T-cell lymphoma (CTCL) three years ago, and my mother found out she had stage four lung cancer a year ago. I got a call earlier this year that the cancer was spreading, and I flew to spend time with them. I knew it would be hard seeing them battling late-stage cancer, but what I walked into was my brother in the Advanced Cancer Care Center, unable to move, and my mother wanting to hold an "end of life" planning meeting. It was worse than I anticipated. It was hard to see him not moving and the nurses having to help him do everything. My mother looked like she weighed 50 pounds ... I'm worried I won't feel anything when they pass away. ... I think it might be just another day when they pass away. I've been thinking — what does that say about me? Am I a bad person for not falling on the ground and losing it for over half of my family dying? Or is this nothingness an OK feeling due to the complicated relationship we've had most of my life? ... Editor's note: Leaders, welcome to the daily world of your clinicians, especially your social workers, chaplains, and grief counselors. Read this with openness to the normalcy of this author's conflicted relationships, emotions, thoughts, and empowered actions toward "not wanting to regret how I handled this opportunity to say goodbye more healthily."

North Texas doctor helps parents facing infant loss deal with the unimaginableCBS News - Texas; by Andrea Lucia, Lexi Salazar, Katie Standing; 2/25/25[Background story for parents Yvette and Thoms Ngo upon dealing with the news that their in-utero baby girl Zoe was diagnosed with Trisomy 13, would likely miscarry, or die soon after birth. Dr. Terri Weinman, their neonatologist offered rich palliative care interventions and support.] "When we met Dr. Weinman and her team the first time, she would say things like, 'So, what are we going to do when Zoey is here,' which changed my mindset completely," Yvette Ngo said. ... For the first time, the Ngos began to consider what Zoey's life, short as it might be, could look like. "It made us more comfortable with the situation, I mean as comfortable as you can be," Thomas Ngo said. "She just gave us hope." Zoey was born on April 18, 2024. She met her parents, her siblings and her grandparents. She was baptized. "They made us little crafts and mementos for us to take home, like footprints, really ways to help cherish Zoey's life," Yvette Ngo said. "They took her heartbeat and recorded it for us. Little things that we wouldn't necessarily think of." Zoey even had a chance to go home. But after 36 hours of life, Zoey passed away in her father's arms. The perinatal palliative care Zoey received remains rare. But for families like the Ngos, it provides a small sense of control when it's needed most. "Being able to plan so much in advance and think about all the different scenarios and how we wanted it," Yvette Ngo said. " I think, looking back on our time with Zoey..." "We wouldn't have done anything differently," Thomas Ngo said. Editor's note: Pair this with "Improving knowledge, confidence, and skills in perinatal bereavement care through simulation in baccalaureate nursing students," posted 2/24/25.

BCN expands community grief care and integrative medicine with grant Bluegrass Care Navigators; News; 2/12/25 Saint Joseph Hospital and Saint Joseph East have awarded Bluegrass Care Navigators (BCN) $50,000 to support grief services and integrative medicine programs. This funding will help BCN provide essential care to more than 1,000 diverse individuals across Lexington, Frankfort, and Cynthiana and address significant health challenges in 2025. Our Community Grief Services include individual and group counseling, Camp Hope for children and adults, and crisis response. With this grant, we anticipate being able to serve more than 800 individuals through community grief counseling. Our Integrative Medicine offerings—music, art, massage therapy, and mindfulness—expand to be able to support approximately 300 patients with 800 visits, enhancing physical and mental health. ... "Together, we are creating a meaningful impact in the community and improving the mental health and well-being of those we serve,” said Liz Fowler, president and CEO of BCN. Editor's note: After this 2/12 post, multiple hospice areas served by Bluegrass Care Navigators were flooded this week, notably Harlan and Pike Counties. We thank BCN for your community grief systems already in place, with significant support ahead for those you serve.