What you should—and shouldn’t—say to a friend going through a major illness

What you should—and shouldn’t—say to a friend going through a major illness 
MSN, by Jenna Ryu; 3/18/24
When a friend receives a life-changing diagnosis, it can be tough to know how to show up for them. ... For instance, you might automatically respond to your buddy's health news with, "I know what you're going through," when really, all you wanted was to be sympathetic. ... So if you’re not sure what, exactly, to say to help them feel better, here are five compassionate and respectful phrases that’ll let them know you’re in their corner.

• "I love you, and I'm here for you." ...
• "I don't exactly know what to say, but I'm thinking of you."
• "I can't imagine how you're feeling, but whatever emotions you're experiencing are perfectly valid."
• "Let me do X for you--how does that sound?"
• "You don't have to say anything."

Editor's Note: Calling hospice and palliative care's all-important non-clinical professionals and volunteers who have not had training in end-of-life communications with patients and families: this article gives gentle, supportive guides for what to say--and not say--to someone going through a serious, life-threatening illness.