Why aging parents make DNR choices before crisis strikes
Why aging parents make DNR choices before crisis strikes
Rolling Out 25; by Khalil Best; 3/17/25
The conversation typically begins quietly. ... An aging parent mentions their desire for a Do Not Resuscitate order—commonly known as a DNR—and the atmosphere in the room shifts. For many adult children, this moment arrives unexpectedly, triggering complex emotions ranging from denial to grief. Yet these discussions, uncomfortable as they may be, represent one of the most meaningful exchanges families can share. Understanding why many elderly parents choose to sign DNR orders in advance illuminates not just practical healthcare concerns, but deeper values about dignity, autonomy, and what constitutes a meaningful life.
- The personal meaning behind medical choices ...
- Five motivations behind DNR decisions ...
- Realistic outcome assessment often drives these choices. ...
- Fear of partial recovery concerns many elderly individuals. ...
- Desire to avoid burdening family members with difficult decisions ...
- Spiritual or philosophical beliefs about natural death processes ...
- Preserving positive final memories for family members ...
Medical professionals note that these motivations reflect careful consideration rather than resignation. Far from giving up, many elderly individuals signing DNRs demonstrate remarkable clarity about their priorities and boundaries.
Editor's note: Click here for the Hospice Foundation of America's list of "Advance directive resources by state."